Letters of Forgiveness: To My Colleague 10 Years Ago

Dear Colleague, I worked with you ten years ago. I didn’t know you well, but something happened between us that has had an impact on me,  something that I need to release. I want you to know that I forgive you. I forgive you for noticing I was new to the alcohol game and a […]

Letters of Forgiveness: To My Flatmate at University

To my Flatmate at University, When you first moved in I felt sorry for you. The other 4 of us were all good friends, and when we had a spare room and advertised it, you ended up moving in. I remember making a real effort to get to know you, seeing as you were “the […]

Letters of Forgiveness: To the Man on the Train

To the man on the train, I catch the train all the time, day and night. I live in London and don’t drive so the train is completely necessary. A train filled with people, surely it isn’t risky. I thought it wasn’t, that was until I met you. I forgive you for strategically sitting next […]

Socialisation: On the Back Foot

At school, I was not very popular. I was a really weird kid, with terrible social skills. My Mother and Father are both alcoholics and spent the majority of my formative years drunk. During my degree at University, I took a class on child development. Something I read stood out to me;  children in their […]

Re-victimisation

Re-victimisation, unfortunately, has consistent evidence. Up to 75% of adults that  experienced abuse as a child, also reported experiencing abuse as an adult. When I first entered therapy, I felt like I “attracted” people who were abusive, I described a series of thorny experiences. A therapist explained to me the concept of re-victimization and that […]

A Letter To My Body

Dear Body, I’m really sorry there have been a number of occasions where I disobeyed what you were asking of me. I’m sorry it took me twenty-five years to learn to listen to you. Even though it wasn’t my doing; I’m sorry that your start in life wasn’t the best. My mother has admitted drinking […]