Letters of Forgiveness: To My Colleague 10 Years Ago

Dear Colleague, I worked with you ten years ago. I didn’t know you well, but something happened between us that has had an impact on me,  something that I need to release. I want you to know that I forgive you. I forgive you for noticing I was new to the alcohol game and a […]

Letters of Forgiveness: To the Man on the Train

To the man on the train, I catch the train all the time, day and night. I live in London and don’t drive so the train is completely necessary. A train filled with people, surely it isn’t risky. I thought it wasn’t, that was until I met you. I forgive you for strategically sitting next […]

Socialisation: On the Back Foot

At school, I was not very popular. I was a really weird kid, with terrible social skills. My Mother and Father are both alcoholics and spent the majority of my formative years drunk. During my degree at University, I took a class on child development. Something I read stood out to me;  children in their […]

Re-victimisation

Re-victimisation, unfortunately, has consistent evidence. Up to 75% of adults that  experienced abuse as a child, also reported experiencing abuse as an adult. When I first entered therapy, I felt like I “attracted” people who were abusive, I described a series of thorny experiences. A therapist explained to me the concept of re-victimization and that […]

Healing: A Marathon Not a Sprint

When I fist began this journey of healing from my trauma, I was 24 years old. I wound up in a therapist’s office explaining how both of my parents were alcoholics, I was a codependent to them, I had trauma from my childhood and I expected to be in therapy for three months while I […]