Letters of Forgiveness: Dear Dad

Dear Dad, I forgive you. I forgive you for being an alcoholic and being unable to admit it. I forgive you for being in denial about your addiction. I forgive you for being unavailable to meet my needs when I was a child. I forgive you for never saying anything positive to me and for […]

Re-victimisation

Re-victimisation, unfortunately, has consistent evidence. Up to 75% of adults that  experienced abuse as a child, also reported experiencing abuse as an adult. When I first entered therapy, I felt like I “attracted” people who were abusive, I described a series of thorny experiences. A therapist explained to me the concept of re-victimization and that […]

Healing: A Marathon Not a Sprint

When I fist began this journey of healing from my trauma, I was 24 years old. I wound up in a therapist’s office explaining how both of my parents were alcoholics, I was a codependent to them, I had trauma from my childhood and I expected to be in therapy for three months while I […]

Surrounded By People, Yet Feeling Alone

I remember being surrounded by people, but feeling totally alone. I had been sworn to secrecy my whole life by my parents, about their alcoholism. Even as a young adult that had left home, I was extremely frightened someone would find out. The problem is, I was solitary. Secrets make us sick. Secrets make us […]

Lies

The most difficult thing about being the daughter of two addicts is the things I didn’t learn growing up, like basic social communication such as, being honest. Unfortunately addicts spin a load of yarn all the time. They lie about everything and anything that will cover their addiction up. This may sound strange, but growing […]