Having a family member with a serious addiction poses serious dilemmas as far as navigating a relationship goes. I’ve had to tailor my love for my mother to work for her and me so that there is as little pain as possible
Being close to you hurts, so I will love you from a distant place.
You tell me you’ve given up drinking, I find alcohol hidden around the house. The lies hurt me and make me frustrated, so I decide I cannot visit your home any longer. I will love you from a distant place.
You tell me you only started drinking when I was a teenager. I tell you I have so many traumatic memories of your addiction when I was a child. You tell me I imagined it, I’m crazy, I need counseling. I decide I can no longer talk to you about the past or my childhood. I will love you from a distant place.
When I talk to you on the phone, you threaten suicide if I don’t do what you want. You have me in tears. I decide I can’t speak on the phone to you any longer. I will love you from a distant place.
I still care, I still wonder how you are. It just hurts too much to have you involved in my life properly. Your addiction has given me no choice. For my own happiness, I will love you from a distant place.